How to love yourself? Decoded in 7 Simple steps

 Loving yourself? Well, I think this is the most awesome thing I have heard till now, but at the same time, it is a little bit confusing also. Why?

Because loving yourself literally means love yourself, let's take an example to understand this:

Let's assume that you have a girlfriend/boyfriend (don't offend if you don't have one😁), what I mean to say here is that if you have a girlfriend/boyfriend, then how will you treat her. 

• You will do everything that will make your girl/boy happy.
• You will bring her to awesome restaurants, loving places.
• You will see a bright future with her.
• You love her and take care of her health, give her special surprises, and a lot more.

............ And you can imagine further on.

Now the point is that we often do not give the same kind of love and affection to ourselves. That's why in hard times we often feel overwhelmed, anxious and hard to start being hard on ourselves instead of caring, motivating, and loving ourselves. This blog post will help you to remember few points in loving yourself and will help you do the same.

There are ultimate 22 ways to love yourself, so if you often struggle loving yourself, here is the perfect solution to your problem:

1. Know Yourself

Knowing yourself is one of the most important things in becoming the best version of yourself. So when I say know yourself, I mean to say that just explore different things that you think are good for you. It may include some business idea, freelancing, selling something, learning a new skill,s, etc. Now what you have to do is to try out these things or any other that you have decided sometime earlier in your life. Once you do that you will realize that what works for you and whatnot. Then, you will find out like yes it works for me !! I can do this. Then you will start learning and knowing yourself and also you're building your self-esteem.

2. Say no when you need to

Boundaries are an essential form of self-love. Many times situation often comes when someone we love and respect asks us for something and we do not feel the urge to say yes. 

Then it's completely okay! Just say no, if don't want to do it, don't worry about saying no to them. If that other person really loves and respects you, then he/she will appreciate your boundaries. Many times we feel bad for saying no, but remember that saying no to someone for something is completely okay and an essential form of self-love7.

3. Don't compare yourself to others

Just thrive to be the best version of yourself. Don't compare yourself to others. Others are good in their own life and that is nothing to do with you personally. Don't be jealous of others' success, by doing this you're just insulting yourself. So be you and learn from others, don't compare with them. You may distance yourself from them if you're not feeling good with them and always that comparing factor comes in. Just distance yourself for your mental peace and focus on be the best version of yourself, will also post about this later.

4. Be truly present

Be truly present?? What does that actually mean? To be present, I mean that just avoid distractions and be mindful of the things that drain your energy. For being mindful start practicing mindfulness meditation for just 5-10 minutes a day. You will find a lot of videos on youtube on how to practice mindfulness, so I am not getting deeper here. If you still want me to tell then just comment down, I will create a guided post for you. After practicing mindfulness You will start seeing changes in your lives that you will be easily able to avoid distractions and get instant feedback from your mind that yes this thing drains your energy and should be avoided.

5. Know and use your strengths 

We all have tremendous gifts, but many of them go unnoticed. When you're busy and distracted it's hard to access these great qualities. Focusing on your strengths will increase your positive feelings for yourself. You can get to know more about your strengths through exploring, taking risks, and importantly by knowing yourself (POINT 1)

6. Give yourself a treat

Treats are more important for inner motivation. Treats can include things like traveling to our favorite places, eating our favorite food, buying our favorite ice-cream, and anything you love doing. Treat comes in when hard work pays off. Treats are the source of motivation for us to do more work, so these are important, keep them in mind. To love yourself, you need to give yourself parties, treat, and anything you give to the person you love.

7. Be honest with yourself. 

This one can be harder than it seems. Some of us as so good at self-deception that we don't even know we're doing it. Honesty is key in all relationships and your relationship with yourself is no different. Clearly, you can't love your entire messy self if you're lying, minimizing, or making excuses. True self-love means taking responsibility and accountability.

~ HARSH JAIN

Thank you for reading😉😉